Hey Ladies. Do you ever get the feeling that what the media says about your body is Bullshit? If you don’t, you probably haven’t thought about it too deeply.
A friend recently shared this Huffington Post article that really hit home with me. It is about how to talk with your daughter about her body. It brought up some stuff for me.
The truth is, all my life, I was unwillingly influenced by external perceptions of what a woman’s body should look like. It actually started at a very young age, and I’m not alone! I’ve had conversations with other women to mirror much the same. One friend revealed that she was pinched playfully by an uncle as a youngster and called chubby. She never forgot that and still carries that wound! This is not only a media issue, it has roots that are penetrating deep into the home.
As we get older, the task that we face is to learn to rekindle a long lost love affair with our bodies. We can choose to relearn to love them unconditionally or to do the work to change them. But if the idea is “home” improvement, it is absolutely KEY to remain detached from the results. If we want to have a healthy relationship with our bodies, our longest-standing best friends, we need to follow some simple guidelines:
- When referring to the Human Body, avoid the use of the word flat or the word hard. Bodies are organic. They are made of soft materials. They bulge, they bloom, they lank, but they are never flat. Boards are flat, buildings are flat. People, on the other hand are not. Our bodies will also never be hard. Muscles add mass to our bodies (which also makes them less “flat”) and create a more dense tension. But our bodies will never be HARD. Bowling balls are hard. And who on earth would want to snuggle with one of those?
- Let go of the idea that we can spot train our bodies. I’ve dealt with a myriad of clients who want to “lose weight in their belly” (see again “flat” myth from topic #1) streamline their rear ends or fix their arm flab. While lifting weights to add muscle mass may change that area, the ideas of what it will look like in the end are just ideas. Those almost never become the reality. Say I were to fantasize about a model in a magazine (see further info in topic #3), the truth is I will never look like that because I will never have “her” body, it will always MY body. I may improve it, but my unique chemistry has its own successes and limitations. My body will always look like MY body.
- Don’t envy the image in the image in the magazine: it is FAKE!!!!! It is photoshopped, airbrushed, and painted. It is a painting, a work of digital art. It is a 2D image that is printed on paper. It IS NOT REAL!! Models (who we all perceive to be perfectly proportioned, starved & immaculately beautiful human beings) are photographed then taken into the computer and stretched to make their legs longer, squeezed to cinch their waists, voluptuized to “improve” their breasts and painted to even their skin tone. The real versions of the magazine images you see have blemishes, bruises, bumps, and cellulite just like the rest of us!
So the bottom line here is to just be healthy. Be OK. Be in acceptance. Know that the decisions that we make for what goes into our bodies is ours. Make a conscious effort to exercise.
Let’s take care of ourselves and the world around us.
And please, please, PLEASE! Don’t pass along what the media says about our bodies Bullshit to our little girls. They deserve so much better.
In Happy Health, <3 J.